Surviving a break up is one the hardest things most of us go through during our lives. To wake up suddenly alone can leave you feeling hurt, devastated, confused, angry and alone. But waiting around forever to start feeling better is not a lot of fun. Instead, here are some simple survival tips for how to get over a breakup that should have you feeling better again soon.
Sitting around the house in your sweats doing nothing only gives your mind time to stay on your break up and on how sad you are feeling. It can drag the pain of a break up on longer than necessary and leave you feeling even more depressed.
One of the best things you can do for yourself is to get active and do something. Take up an old hobby again – or find a new one to try. Hang out with your friends, go shopping, go see a movie or anything else that gets you out of the house and into the world again.
Just doing something will give your mind a distraction and can help you to feel better right away. Now, at first after a break up you may have to force yourself to get out and do things because all you want to do is bury your head in your pillow. However, within a very short amount of time you'll find yourself looking forward to your activities and enjoying your life again.
Exercise is so good for getting over a break up for several reasons. First, exercise releases "happy chemicals" into your brain that can immediately give you an emotional boost. Next, it is a great way to burn off some of your sadness or anger in a constructive, healthy way.
Now, you do not have to go gung-ho and run a marathon or anything. Instead, find an exercise that you enjoy and stick with it. You might try taking walks in nature (being surrounded by nature is one of the best ways to lift your spirits). Or hit the gym, go swimming, ride your bike, go for a jog, or even just do some exercises in your living room to get your blood moving.
Talk to Someone
Do not keep your feelings bottled up inside. Find a good friend or a family member that you can talk to about how you are feeling. If talking is hard for you at least try getting a journal or diary and writing down what is on your mind. Just getting the feelings out of your head can go a long ways toward helping you to start feeling better faster.
Try to Get Back Together
Many couples successfully get back together after a break up or separation. If you feel like your ex is "the one" and you can not stand the thought of them slipping away it might be worthwhile for you to at least try to get back together with them. Even if it did not work out at least you would have the comfort of knowing that you did everything you could instead of just giving up and throwing in the towel.
Before you try to get your ex back be sure that it is the best thing for you. If you were in an emotionally or physically abusive relationship or were with someone who did not respect you, as hard as it is to hear you probably will be better off just moving on.