Many parents are always looking for the magic pill that will make their child be on their best behavior and never throw any tantrums or talk back. Unfortunately, that pill does not exist and parents are left with the task of trying to figure out the most effective method to teach desired behaviors. Often times, parents become so frustrated with their failed attempts at teaching a behavior, they will just give up and let the child do as he / she pleases. That is a dangerous routine to get stuck in and will make the parenting job much harder.
Parents who are trying to raise children with ADHD, often feel like their attempts are teaching the child good behaviors and acceptable social skills are futile. This is not the case. Yes, they do present some challenges, but they can be overcome.
By changing your style of parenting you can successfully teach your child good behaviors whether they have behavior disorders or not. You must step into the role of a leader. You are leading the child. Do not allow the child to lead you. When you give into a child's pleading or bargaining tactics, you are transferring the power in the relationship to them. This is a recipe for disaster.
Be the leader and stay firm in all your decisions. Do not allow for any bargaining. Enforce all consequences to breaking rules or stepping outside your designated boundaries. Letting it slide even one time, tells the child you are not serious about the rules. They will most likely break the same rule again to see what will happen. Your role as a parent is synonymous with that of a leader.
Do you want to learn exactly how to eliminate your child's out-of-control and defiant behavior without using Punishments, Time-Outs, Behavioral Plans, or Rewards?